11 Best Addiction and Sobriety Books

There are few things I love more than a book list, so here’s one that’s near and dear to my heart: my favorite books about addiction and sobriety. It’s a mix of memoirs, self-help, and psychological/scientific study books about addiction and sobriety. Note: there are a mix of recovery paths represented in this list (read: AA, but not only AA), which is important to me.

Long before I got sober, I read about sobriety and addiction. The stories helped me look at my own story before I was ready. Some, long before. I know there are dozens of other fantastic books out there. And I am of the mind that we can never have enough of these stories—the more, the better—because even though they typically follow the same line, they are all as unique as we are. There are a few I have on my list to read once I’m done with my own book: My Fair Junkie by Amy Dresner, The Recovering by Leslie Jameson, and I’m Just Happy to Be Here by Janelle Hanchett. Feel free to add your own suggestions in the comments.

In no particular order...

1. “Drinking: A Love Story” by Caroline Knapp

When I first read this book over ten years ago it felt like I was reading my own journal (if my journal was written in incredibly eloquent prose). I almost wanted to snap it shut, but instead finished it in one day and have read it at least three more times since. Knapp so perfectly describes the emotional landscape of addiction, and as a literary study it’s as perfect a memoir as I’ve ever read. I often think about what it took to publish this when she did, in the 90’s, as a female and a journalist in Boston. There were very few female voices on addiction then and I learned through reading her best friend, Gail Caldwell’s memoir, Let’s Take The Long Way Home (which I also highly recommend), that Knapp was a deeply private person—making it all the more admirable that she wrote and published this book.

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“The real struggle is about you: you, a person who has to learn to live in the real world, to inhabit her own skin, to know her own heart, to stop waiting for life to begin.” 

2. “Lit” by Mary Karr

Mary Karr’s memoir, set in Boston (Cambridge), chronicles her path toward sobriety with crackling honesty and wry humor as she effectively connects her family dynamics as a child living in a chaotic home to her adult state of perpetual chaos. As a mother, I relate to her story so deeply—our children were the same young age when we stopped drinking. She’s an iconic, witty literary voice, an engrossing storyteller, and this book too is a great study in memoir.

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“If you live in the dark a long time and the sun comes out, you do not cross into it whistling. There's an initial uprush of relief at first, then—for me, anyway—a profound dislocation. My old assumptions about how the world works are buried, yet my new ones aren't yet operational.There's been a death of sorts, but without a few days in hell, no resurrection is possible.” 

3. “Blackout” by Sarah Hepola

Sarah’s writing is sharp and relatable; a more recent, modern voice in the recovery space. So many of us look at “blacking out” as benign, or normal—an indicator of a “successful” night of drinking. In Blackout, Sarah clearly explains why there’s nothing benign about it and describes what is actually happening to the brain when we reach that point of alcohol-induced amnesia. I love her perspective on drinking as an act of counter-feminism—that in reality it actually dismantles our power, our pride, and our dignity as women, though we intended the opposite.

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“I wanted the gift of forgetting. Boozy love songs and brokenhearted ballads know the torture of remembering. If drinking don't kill me, her memory will, George Jones sang, and I got it. The blackouts were horrible. It was hideous to let those nights slide into a crack in the ground. But even scarier was to take responsibility for the mess I'd made. Even scarier was to remember your own life.” 

4. “Drink: The Intimate Relationship Between Women and Alcohol” by Ann Dowsett Johnston

Ann Dowsett Johnston brilliantly weaves her own story of recovery with in-depth research on the alarming rise of risky drinking among women. The marketing strategies employed to sell booze to women are as alarming as the skyrocketing number of women who qualify as having alcohol use disorders. Ann’s book is such a unique and insightful combination of personal experience and scientific research.

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Whenever I had too much to drink, this was my mantra: "I'm fine." Teetering across pink granite in lake country, late at night: "I'm fine." Tossing off my high heels, after a gala awards night: "I'm fine." It was easy to say without slurring, and it was defiant. It never changed. Except I wasn't fine. Not even close.

5. “Dry” by Augusten Burroughs

Dry stunned me over ten years ago, long before I was ready to get sober. I think it is Burroughs’ writing at its very best: dry, funny, sarcastic, and somehow also totally heartwarming. Another one I’ve read several times.

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“Think of your head as an unsafe neighborhood; don't go there alone.” 

6. “The Unexpected Joy of Being Sober” by Catherine Gray

What I love about Catherine’s book (other than her writing is whip-smart and so funny) is how she shines a light on the JOY that comes into our lives through sobriety. She talks about the same fears I had: being boring, never finding love again, work, dating, finding a path outside of AA. Through this book, Catherine shows just how big and freeing life can be when you remove alcohol from the equation. Witty, relatable, full of insight, statistics, and practical resources.

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“So, in sobriety, Day Fun girl was born. Instead of living for the relief of the night falling and the club bass thrumming into life, I started living in the days instead.”

7. “This Naked Mind” by Annie Grace

Annie’s book is so important (and she’s a wonderful human to boot). She brilliantly weaves psychological, neurological, cultural, social and industry factors with her own journey. Without scare tactics, pain, or rules, she offers a strategy to give you freedom from alcohol. By addressing causes rather than symptoms, it is framed as a permanent solution rather than lifetime struggle. It removes the psychological dependence; allowing you to easily drink less (or stop drinking entirely).

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“Liminal Thinking defines how, through the conscious exploration and acceptance of new ideas and truths, you can influence your unconscious mind.” 

8. “This is How: Surviving What You Think You Can’t” by Augusten Burroughs

I call this the anti-self-help self-help book (and I got more from it than 98% of the actual self-help books I’ve read). It became the tipping point for me in getting sober. The book is a collection of "How To" essays: how to lose someone you love, how to shatter shame (paramount in recovery), how to be fat, and my favorite: how to finish your drink. He got a good amount of criticism for writing a self-help book. People wondered about his "qualifications" and his "arrogance." But that's precisely why I love it. And honestly, who is better qualified to write a self-help book than a gay, recovered addict, and survivor of sexual abuse? 

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"All improvements, transformations, achievements, liberations; everything you want to change about yourself and your life; everything you want to make happen, any obstacle you want to overcome, any crisis you must survive-- the prerequisite is being able to allow yourself to feel whatever it is you feel and not pretend to feel something you don't."

9. “The Body Keeps The Score” by Bessel van der Kolk

 The trauma bible. Understanding the correlation between addiction and trauma has been a transformative part of my own recovery. This book helps us begin to understand how both our mind and our body hold on to trauma for years, and even decades, after the event occurs. Nearly every aspect of trauma, the associated neuroscience, extensive research, interventions, and treatment approaches for healing trauma… it’s all here.

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“The challenge of recovery is to reestablish ownership of your body and your mind — of your self. For most people this involves not having to keep secrets from yourself, including secrets about the ways that you have managed to survive.”

10. “Beautiful Boy” by David Sheff 

I read this book before I became a parent and was floored, but have thought about it even more since. It is the heartbreaking and astute account of Sheff’s experience of his son, Nic’s, addiction and eventual recovery. He viscerally paints the picture of the hope-tainted despair, anguish, and havoc that addiction wreaks on an entire family.

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“Anyone who has lived through it, or those who are now living through it, knows that caring about an addict is as complex and fraught and debilitating as addiction itself.” 

11. “Nothing Good Can Come From This” by Kristi Coulter

The first time I stumbled on Kristi’s writing, I fell in love (and immediately stalked her to ask if we could be friends). NGCCFT is her first book and it’s a gem: a collection of essays about drinking and not drinking, yes, but even more about becoming—as a woman, a partner in marriage, transitioning into mid-life, navigating the tech industry. She’s smart, witty, and I can’t wait to see many more books from her.

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“I slept for ten hours and woke in a greenish rainy light. Outside the trees were fretting in the wine. I lay still in the middle of the bed, feeling suspended in my own body and wanting nothing but what had just happened: to make it to my second day without a drink. You have a whole morning, I thought. You can do anything you want.”